Comments on: How to get over someone? http://sushubh.net/324-how-to-get-over-someone Sushubh's Blog Sat, 05 Jul 2008 23:37:12 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Sonia....x http://sushubh.net/324-how-to-get-over-someone#comment-381269 Sonia....x Tue, 18 Mar 2008 11:40:16 +0000 http://sushubh.net/archives/2005/04/27/how-to-get-over-someone/#comment-381269 Oh god, I know exactly what you are going through. I had a friend for about three years, whom I never really saw that much. He was always just around and I used to see him through mutual friends that we had. When I first met him, one of my friends told me that he liked me, but I never took the time to find out if he did, as I was in a relationship with someone else. I started seeing him more and more recently, and over time I found myself developing deeper feelings for him. And then one month ago, he rings me and tells me that he's moving 300 miles away for the next year to be a teacher for children in the Lake District. I swear I have never experienced pain like I did when I found that out. He told me only four days before he left, and I spent the whole time crying at my desk at work, or laying on my bed and crying. He came to see me the night before he left, and I was hysterical. I wrote and gave him a letter explaining that I wish I'd taken the time at the start to get to know him. And that even though he didn't know it, he'd had a bigger impact on my life than he realised. And now, now I just can't stop thinking about him. Every morning when I wake up I wonder what he's doing, and how he is, and every night before I go to sleep I wish so much that he was there with me. I don't even want him in a sexual way, I just want to be near him. I want to be the reason he smiles everyday, and to feel him close to me. But I didn't tell him. So then I sort of rang him up one day, and was very heavily intoxicated so I kinda told him what was on my mind. Then I bullied (in a nice way!) our mutual friend into speaking to him about it, because I have no problems whatsoever with waiting the year. It doesn't bother me in the slightest. My friend then told me that he wasn't interested, and he just wants to be friends with me etc etc. So what do I do now? I sent him a text message, and explained that I was ok with us being friends, and that I'm glad I know instead of constantly wondering 'what if'. But I'm not glad I know. I feel as though every reason that I'm breathing has ceased to be. I feel as though my hearts been ripped through my chest and run over by a Monster Truck. And theres nothing I can do about it. But he is my life in his entirety. I don't understand how I'm meant to move on now. I don't understand what I'm meant to do. I am completely at a loss for anything. I've lost the sunshine and I know it sounds awful kleeshayed, but I feel as though I can't go on without him. I'm completely devoid of feelings, I just feel sad all the time, and am constantly at war with myself to stop myself from crying. What makes it even worse is that I didn't tell him all that time ago, when I had the chance to, and that I didn't appreciate him when I had the chance to. I didn't appreciate anything and I'm so angry at myself for not. I just want to fall asleep, and it wouldn't really concern me if I didn't wake up. Does that sound like too much feeling for someone who I never really had? Oh god, I know exactly what you are going through. I had a friend for about three years, whom I never really saw that much. He was always just around and I used to see him through mutual friends that we had. When I first met him, one of my friends told me that he liked me, but I never took the time to find out if he did, as I was in a relationship with someone else. I started seeing him more and more recently, and over time I found myself developing deeper feelings for him. And then one month ago, he rings me and tells me that he’s moving 300 miles away for the next year to be a teacher for children in the Lake District. I swear I have never experienced pain like I did when I found that out. He told me only four days before he left, and I spent the whole time crying at my desk at work, or laying on my bed and crying. He came to see me the night before he left, and I was hysterical. I wrote and gave him a letter explaining that I wish I’d taken the time at the start to get to know him. And that even though he didn’t know it, he’d had a bigger impact on my life than he realised. And now, now I just can’t stop thinking about him. Every morning when I wake up I wonder what he’s doing, and how he is, and every night before I go to sleep I wish so much that he was there with me. I don’t even want him in a sexual way, I just want to be near him. I want to be the reason he smiles everyday, and to feel him close to me. But I didn’t tell him. So then I sort of rang him up one day, and was very heavily intoxicated so I kinda told him what was on my mind. Then I bullied (in a nice way!) our mutual friend into speaking to him about it, because I have no problems whatsoever with waiting the year. It doesn’t bother me in the slightest. My friend then told me that he wasn’t interested, and he just wants to be friends with me etc etc. So what do I do now? I sent him a text message, and explained that I was ok with us being friends, and that I’m glad I know instead of constantly wondering ‘what if’. But I’m not glad I know. I feel as though every reason that I’m breathing has ceased to be. I feel as though my hearts been ripped through my chest and run over by a Monster Truck. And theres nothing I can do about it. But he is my life in his entirety. I don’t understand how I’m meant to move on now. I don’t understand what I’m meant to do. I am completely at a loss for anything. I’ve lost the sunshine and I know it sounds awful kleeshayed, but I feel as though I can’t go on without him. I’m completely devoid of feelings, I just feel sad all the time, and am constantly at war with myself to stop myself from crying. What makes it even worse is that I didn’t tell him all that time ago, when I had the chance to, and that I didn’t appreciate him when I had the chance to. I didn’t appreciate anything and I’m so angry at myself for not. I just want to fall asleep, and it wouldn’t really concern me if I didn’t wake up. Does that sound like too much feeling for someone who I never really had?

]]> By: charm http://sushubh.net/324-how-to-get-over-someone#comment-381254 charm Tue, 18 Mar 2008 10:32:45 +0000 http://sushubh.net/archives/2005/04/27/how-to-get-over-someone/#comment-381254 could u send me an advise they called me love as my name i got a boyfren as a present but probably i dont know if i pursue this kind of relation that shouldn't know if it is work i committed him that i knew he commit with someone im a stupid i accept this were been far relationship just call and email but he visit me everymonth were i am staying now that he showned and proved to me how importan i am with. anyway now almost 4months he never visit again at all i found it lately that this girl living with him thats why never answer my calls,text,and email i really love him so much more than he expect he complete me everything i wannna be with him forever but im unlucky that im not the one he chosen how could i get over with this guy that he brought special in my lyf!!!!!!!!!!!and how would i start my lyf without becoz as of now i did'nt yet expect that he lie with me pretend everything is gonna be ok i thought im the one but its not!i regretfull all things i already used that he love me help me in this situation plzzzzzzzzzzz!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!send me an email crushesf23@yahoo.com love S. could u send me an advise they called me love as my name i got a boyfren as a present but probably i dont know if i pursue this kind of relation that shouldn’t know if it is work i committed him that i knew he commit with someone im a stupid i accept this were been far relationship just call and email but he visit me everymonth were i am staying now that he showned and proved to me how importan i am with. anyway now almost 4months he never visit again at all i found it lately that this girl living with him thats why never answer my calls,text,and email i really love him so much more than he expect he complete me everything i wannna be with him forever but im unlucky that im not the one he chosen how could i get over with this guy that he brought special in my lyf!!!!!!!!!!!and how would i start my lyf without becoz as of now i did’nt yet expect that he lie with me pretend everything is gonna be ok i thought im the one but its not!i regretfull all things i already used that he love me help me in this situation plzzzzzzzzzzz!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!send me an email crushesf23@yahoo.com

love S.

]]> By: lovely http://sushubh.net/324-how-to-get-over-someone#comment-381243 lovely Tue, 18 Mar 2008 09:57:02 +0000 http://sushubh.net/archives/2005/04/27/how-to-get-over-someone/#comment-381243 guy"s i just want to shared all of u this stories, that story about myself i've never been inlove anyway at my place never got any experience about the relationship then, wen i got abroad to take a job then i found this guy, the guy who gave me shits in my lyf and everything i thought it was the one that im looking for lot of promises not only by myself also my family i gave to him everything my whole life just only with him, then suddenly i found out lately that he just want to used me got some fun i ask god why he chosen me? then im trying to forget everything what happen between me and him becoz this is my first time to love and making love with someone!!!!!i cnt concentrated with anything im doi'n aften past year i did'nt expect that there still guy remain thats only my gut for me but i dont know if it is god just trying give some trials for me that he ive never give up anything but im still pursue my self im lucky person become love now here again to love someone not for me these guy is american gave everything wat i want as in everthyng hes complete me but why? i accept this guy that ive even know he committed someone but were same love each other plz give me an advice wat were going to do about this i love him so much not only he gave me the one who deserve a lot. guy”s i just want to shared all of u this stories, that story about myself i’ve never been inlove anyway at my place never got any experience about the relationship then, wen i got abroad to take a job then i found this guy, the guy who gave me shits in my lyf and everything i thought it was the one that im looking for lot of promises not only by myself also my family i gave to him everything my whole life just only with him, then suddenly i found out lately that he just want to used me got some fun i ask god why he chosen me? then im trying to forget everything what happen between me and him becoz this is my first time to love and making love with someone!!!!!i cnt concentrated with anything im doi’n aften past year i did’nt expect that there still guy remain thats only my gut for me but i dont know if it is god just trying give some trials for me that he ive never give up anything but im still pursue my self im lucky person become love now here again to love someone not for me these guy is american gave everything wat i want as in everthyng hes complete me but why? i accept this guy that ive even know he committed someone but were same love each other plz give me an advice wat were going to do about this i love him so much not only he gave me the one who deserve a lot.

]]> By: wbucket http://sushubh.net/324-how-to-get-over-someone#comment-373013 wbucket Wed, 05 Mar 2008 01:32:52 +0000 http://sushubh.net/archives/2005/04/27/how-to-get-over-someone/#comment-373013 K, sounds like a lack of communication to me. Most writer here had reached the point of no return, but your case is different. Love is strange, you love him, yet you want him to go through pain at the same time. Another way to look at it is, both of you might still lack maturity (since you still taking exams, I kind of assumed a little on your age). I recently watched a show called "the last kiss", http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0434139/ thought you might like it. Anyway, let him back into your life. Don't say hurtful stuff since you don't mean it anyway. But don't show that you are still very much in love with him. Let him work. Place your friends on a higher piority list than him. I am a guy, I know how making it difficult would make it more valuable. O, pick up this book if you are free. "Man from mar, women from venus". Susprisingly the examples written in there can be so familar. K, sounds like a lack of communication to me. Most writer here had reached the point of no return, but your case is different. Love is strange, you love him, yet you want him to go through pain at the same time. Another way to look at it is, both of you might still lack maturity (since you still taking exams, I kind of assumed a little on your age). I recently watched a show called “the last kiss”, http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0434139/ thought you might like it.

Anyway, let him back into your life. Don’t say hurtful stuff since you don’t mean it anyway. But don’t show that you are still very much in love with him. Let him work. Place your friends on a higher piority list than him. I am a guy, I know how making it difficult would make it more valuable.

O, pick up this book if you are free. “Man from mar, women from venus”. Susprisingly the examples written in there can be so familar.

]]> By: K http://sushubh.net/324-how-to-get-over-someone#comment-372742 K Tue, 04 Mar 2008 18:07:55 +0000 http://sushubh.net/archives/2005/04/27/how-to-get-over-someone/#comment-372742 Thanks wbucket i thought so too but i realised that no matter how much i want this and how much he claims to want this it isnt working out. that is not what a relationship is about, we shldnt have to fight soo hard just to keep it goin, i mean i do understand how much work goes into keeping a relationship but this is ridiculus and i havent forgiven him for the things he's done wrong and i still cnt trust him because of that. so it is my fault. i thought that staying together was hurting us more than breaking up. i thought it would take some time but finally i'd get over it. but im not so sure nemore, the same thing u jus said occured to me last night, i want to be with him he wants to be with me we both love each other then we should be together. our would be three year anniversary is coming up and i cnt stop wishing that i was with him and that we were gonna go out to dinner at our fav restaurant and spend the whole night together. i realised that im actually angry with him for screwing it up and making it hav to end. :( now i dnt kno what to do tell him that i really do still wanna be with him, or go through with this. Thanks wbucket

i thought so too but i realised that no matter how much i want this and how much he claims to want this it isnt working out. that is not what a relationship is about, we shldnt have to fight soo hard just to keep it goin, i mean i do understand how much work goes into keeping a relationship but this is ridiculus and i havent forgiven him for the things he’s done wrong and i still cnt trust him because of that. so it is my fault. i thought that staying together was hurting us more than breaking up. i thought it would take some time but finally i’d get over it. but im not so sure nemore, the same thing u jus said occured to me last night, i want to be with him he wants to be with me we both love each other then we should be together. our would be three year anniversary is coming up and i cnt stop wishing that i was with him and that we were gonna go out to dinner at our fav restaurant and spend the whole night together. i realised that im actually angry with him for screwing it up and making it hav to end. :( now i dnt kno what to do tell him that i really do still wanna be with him, or go through with this.

]]> By: wbucket http://sushubh.net/324-how-to-get-over-someone#comment-372463 wbucket Tue, 04 Mar 2008 09:14:11 +0000 http://sushubh.net/archives/2005/04/27/how-to-get-over-someone/#comment-372463 K, seems like you want to be with him still, and he is also into you? Why then the break up? If 2 parties want very much for the relationship to work, it usually will. K, seems like you want to be with him still, and he is also into you? Why then the break up? If 2 parties want very much for the relationship to work, it usually will.

]]> By: K http://sushubh.net/324-how-to-get-over-someone#comment-371969 K Mon, 03 Mar 2008 18:13:53 +0000 http://sushubh.net/archives/2005/04/27/how-to-get-over-someone/#comment-371969 i have writen here before and im still trying everything in my power to get over this guy. i have tried to keep busy, ive probably done everything, clean everywhere, rearenge stuff, try to go out with friends, telling him hurtfulll things so he'll stop calling but nothing seems to get my mind away from him or from me picking up the phone. its so natural. if something good happens i call him to give him the good news if something bad happens i call him to comfort me. i dnt kno who im sposed to turn to now that i try to get over him. my frens dnt belive that we've finally broken up and they arent there to support me. i cry and cry and cry and im disgusted with myself. im not motivated to do anything anymore. i have exams comming up and i havent picked up a book. everything seems to be falling apart wen really and truly everything else is fine but it feels like that because that relationship is over. i cant distance myself beacuse he keeps calling and keeps trying to come over i've been ressiting for a long time but sometimes i feel to just call him and ask him to come jus to hug me and make me feel better about HIM! i always call even when i try my hardest not to, especially at nigt right before i go to sleep. when i care about something or someone i give my all into it and when it doesnt work out it hurts. i guess i learned never to make someone ure eerything. someone tell me what to do? i cnt do it nemore! i have writen here before and im still trying everything in my power to get over this guy. i have tried to keep busy, ive probably done everything, clean everywhere, rearenge stuff, try to go out with friends, telling him hurtfulll things so he’ll stop calling but nothing seems to get my mind away from him or from me picking up the phone.

its so natural. if something good happens i call him to give him the good news if something bad happens i call him to comfort me. i dnt kno who im sposed to turn to now that i try to get over him. my frens dnt belive that we’ve finally broken up and they arent there to support me.

i cry and cry and cry and im disgusted with myself. im not motivated to do anything anymore. i have exams comming up and i havent picked up a book. everything seems to be falling apart wen really and truly everything else is fine but it feels like that because that relationship is over.

i cant distance myself beacuse he keeps calling and keeps trying to come over i’ve been ressiting for a long time but sometimes i feel to just call him and ask him to come jus to hug me and make me feel better about HIM! i always call even when i try my hardest not to, especially at nigt right before i go to sleep.

when i care about something or someone i give my all into it and when it doesnt work out it hurts. i guess i learned never to make someone ure eerything. someone tell me what to do? i cnt do it nemore!

]]> By: vanessa http://sushubh.net/324-how-to-get-over-someone#comment-371483 vanessa Mon, 03 Mar 2008 00:21:41 +0000 http://sushubh.net/archives/2005/04/27/how-to-get-over-someone/#comment-371483 angel hi, r u saying u accepted the proposal? or u turned it down? and ur advice u posted i just implemented that into my life and i pray to god i have strenght to follow thru and am taking things one day at a time angel hi, r u saying u accepted the proposal? or u turned it down? and ur advice u posted i just implemented that into my life and i pray to god i have strenght to follow thru and am taking things one day at a time

]]> By: Angel http://sushubh.net/324-how-to-get-over-someone#comment-369650 Angel Fri, 29 Feb 2008 18:21:22 +0000 http://sushubh.net/archives/2005/04/27/how-to-get-over-someone/#comment-369650 Hey guys, I have written several times about the same someone and I must say after five years of chasing a man and a "finally" marriage proposal from him...I realized that I should have listened to myself and GOD a long time ago and I would have saved myself plenty of heartache and years only to realize this guy has never and will never have my best interest even if he wanted to make me his wife, he only realized he didn't want to loose me, but never really gave the sacrifice in order to really win me. I shake my head when I look back at the exhausted pursuit of a man that wasn't worthy of me or my love and how the right man is out there and It shouldn't be hard to win his love, cuz he loves me just as much. Take pride in yourself and if he doesn’t show you the love you need and doesn’t appreciate you. MOVE ON...seriously Move on or you will seriously me upset with yourself for being blind to what you already know in your gut, but too afraid to experience the pain that comes with rejection and letting go. LET GO, invest in yourself and absorb your self in activities and organizations (Positive things)....and I guarantee you will come out better. In Sincere LOVE....An Angel (that's honestly my last name)! Hey guys, I have written several times about the same someone and I must say after five years of chasing a man and a “finally” marriage proposal from him…I realized that I should have listened to myself and GOD a long time ago and I would have saved myself plenty of heartache and years only to realize this guy has never and will never have my best interest even if he wanted to make me his wife, he only realized he didn’t want to loose me, but never really gave the sacrifice in order to really win me. I shake my head when I look back at the exhausted pursuit of a man that wasn’t worthy of me or my love and how the right man is out there and It shouldn’t be hard to win his love, cuz he loves me just as much. Take pride in yourself and if he doesn’t show you the love you need and doesn’t appreciate you. MOVE ON…seriously Move on or you will seriously me upset with yourself for being blind to what you already know in your gut, but too afraid to experience the pain that comes with rejection and letting go. LET GO, invest in yourself and absorb your self in activities and organizations (Positive things)….and I guarantee you will come out better. In Sincere LOVE….An Angel (that’s honestly my last name)!

]]> By: DOWNWARDSPIRAL http://sushubh.net/324-how-to-get-over-someone#comment-356917 DOWNWARDSPIRAL Mon, 11 Feb 2008 23:01:32 +0000 http://sushubh.net/archives/2005/04/27/how-to-get-over-someone/#comment-356917 its just a never-ending circle of doom and destruction its just a never-ending circle of doom and destruction

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